Where’s the Remote Dad? I Need to Change the Channel

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“Would you like to watch Spiderman?  It’s on TV right now.” I asked my son one Saturday morning.


“I don’t watch THIS Spiderman show dad.” My son said as if I should’ve known better.  “It’s boring.  I saved a different Spiderman show on the DVR. It’s way cooler.”

In that moment, my six-year-old son unknowingly reminded me of the reality that is today’s marketplace.  And that little reminder has BIG implications for our profession.

When I was my son’s age (I swore I’d never use the “walking to school uphill in the snow” routine when I got older!) I would have jumped in excitement at the site of any Spiderman cartoon.  But there weren’t any available.  Instead, I had to settle for Super Friends on Saturday mornings.  And I waited every week to see that show!  It didn’t matter what super hero was featured that week, or if it was a repeat.  With three stations to choose from I was happy to watch whatever cartoon was put in front of me.  Not so with my oldest son.  My son has choices, and a whole lot of them.

The result – he is a very discriminating consumer.  Repeats?  Please.  That is so 1970’s!  He has control over what he pays attention to and what he chooses to ignore.  When my Super Friends show would cut to commercial I actually watched the commercials.  There was no fast forward button on my remote because there was no remote!

My world, as a young boy, was one of scarcity.  My son lives in a world of abundance and that fact affects how you advertise and how you build relevance in whatever business you are in today.

Make no mistake about it, my son’s multi-station, DVR, video on-demand world is also our world.  And our profession works tirelessly to find its footing in a market where it is easy to be tuned-out.

If you’re speaking the same old talk about the value of therapy you risk being ignored.

Understanding this market shift can help you build a much more effective marketing plan.  Here are two tips that I believe should be a part of everyone’s plan.

Tip One

First and foremost – be a part of the conversations taking place in your community and beyond.  Limit the use of traditional advertising or, at the very least, work to integrate advertising into an overall grass roots marketing approach where you become an integral part of a community.  People take notice when they hear someone’s viewpoint versus seeing an advertisement about their services.  They notice when a person practices what they preach, and they’re more than happy to spread the word.

Tip Two

A second bit of advice is to avoid operating under a scarcity model.  Sounds obvious but it’s not easy.  I see a lot of mental health organizations and individuals who hold onto this model.  What’s an example of a scarcity model in our profession?  Here are two simple but common ones.

  • Opening up a practice, placing an ad in the yellow pages, mailing brochures and waiting for the phone to ring.
  • Posting your resume online, responding to posted job announcements and waiting for the phone to ring.

Having the best clinical expertise, the most innovative service or the best prices will not necessarily lead people to your door.  Success rarely starts and ends from that premise.  Are all of these important?  Yes.  But without consistent outreach your work will go largely unnoticed.

Factors for Success

Dedicate time to sales and marketing, and be genuine in your efforts.  Use approaches that add value to people.  Share your skills with others.  Find a position that people can rally around because it truly matters to them.

If you cannot get your message across in a way that is engaging then you risk being just another Spiderman show that doesn’t make the DVR playlist.

In my opinion, the three most important factors for success when going to market are:

  • Your work ethic and your consistency with that effort.
  • Your ability to offer a service that people value, believe in and talk about.
  • Your ability to build strategic partnerships that add to your credibility, build trust and give you an entry point for clients to come to know you.


  1. Martie Adams  November 17, 2009

    David, You do such a great job of using every day experiences to illustrate your marketing lessons. Thanks very much! I always enjoy your posts.

  2. Katherine Graber  November 17, 2009

    David, I love your advice and since I am starting from scratch, I am using your advice on a daily basis. Thanks for such good tips.

  3. Cordes Simpson  November 17, 2009

    Thanks for all the info I, too am starting from scratch! It’s very confusing facebook, twitter, feeds, posts, web sites, down loads, up loads, videos, business coaches, blogs, etc, etc……!!

  4. David Diana  November 17, 2009

    Thanks everyone. I’m glad you are finding the information to be useful and a fun read.

    Cordes – I think for starters focus on building a foundation before moving on to the areas you listed. By this I mean looking into what you want the scope of your work to be and building some goals around that. hen you go through these steps then it empowers you to choose the right vehicles for you without overwhelming you.

  5. Lisa Holland  November 18, 2009

    David, I love the spiderman analogy! I’m all about a good analogy…
    I agree, if our goal is to truly help people with emotional and psychological challenges then we have to check our own resistance to “how it’s supposed to be done.”

    The thing is, we’re finally getting what we’ve wanted for a long time – a change in the negative stigma. And, this isn’t because we’ve continued to sit and wait in our low-lit quiet therapy offices for clients…

    …its because people like yourself and others have gone out into the community and shown HOW we can help ease emotional pain, cope with stress, adjust to illness, achieve goals, communicate more effectively with our families, and know ourselves.

    I say the goal should be… show your worth to your community!
    That’s my 2-cents…

  6. Susan Giurleo  November 18, 2009

    Another great post.
    Another point with the scarcity mindset: the reality we should all have very full practices because there are so many in our communities with real needs.
    The problem is, they can’t find us because we don’t tell them where we are or what we do.
    Also, the scarcity mindset leads people to be generalists and try to work with anyone who calls the office, however with an abundance mindset we can relax and know that there are more than enough people who need our services that we can be authentic and true to who we work with best.

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